Tuesday, November 27, 2007

Healing Family Patterns/Relationships

A few weeks ago I was a guest at the EnSOUL HEALth revolution Show. www.myspace.com/enSOULHEALth , and during the interview we started to discuss family relationships. Now I have had challenges in the past with my family and my mother so I was able to talk about my journey, especially as I am the youngest member of my family . The challenges came more prevalent when I decided to 'know thyself' and such was our 'separation anxiety' that the relationship started to deteriorate and become volatile.

During my search I started a Celestine Prophecy study group where began learning about energy exchange and families. Through this work I was able to change our dynamic and HEAL our relationship without even speaking and talking to my mother about this. The only statement I made was to tell her this is who I was calmly without conviction. Wow! Now our relationship is blessed and we have a mutual understanding, although not without its own challenges from time to time but now I have a very sweet, caring and knowledgeable mother, and a friend yes my mother is a woman born ahead of her time. I thank the Creator for the restoration of our relationship.

Now lets look at the healing available for those that need to overcome a difficult relationship. As 'the universe is mind' the change must start with yourself, as you are the one who desires change and a more effective way of relating. In Nero Linguistic Programming there are several techniques we use to bring about profound changes. I also give advice to my clients on meditation and art work so that they can change these very volatile and painful family dynamics that are generations old using a safe and comfortable medium. (we do not want anymore pain).

So lets look at the therapies that we can use to heal this;

Neuro linguistic Programming
Family Constellation
Body Alignment Therapy
Counselling


NLP techniques
There are several techniques I use to bring about change, the client does not have to revist 'painful' events using timeline technique, or the Logical levels which is soo powerful this changed a relationship dynamic instantly. Below is a very dynamic exercise called Gentling which will change intergenerational dynamics.

"Gentling" as a Path to Personal Growth
The following process was developed by Robert Dilts in 1991 as a means to apply the process of "gentling" to facilitate personal growth. The process is designed to promote a positive "grandmother" or "grandparent" effect by using Time Lines and different Perceptual Positions.
One key issue to be dealt with in attempting to adapt the gentling process to humans is, "What has the same relationship to humans that humans have to other species?" There is obviously no real analogy in terms of an actual creature or being. Besides something like the Earth itself, this relationship would be represented by something like a "guardian angel" or some type of spiritual being. The basic steps of the process involve setting up overlapping time lines representing the lifetimes of yourself, a parent and a grandparent. (It is not necessary that the parent and grandparent be actual individuals that you have known and interacted with in your life. They may be imaginary or archetype figures.) Once the time lines are established, the exercise involves going back in your imagination to the birth of your grandparent, as if you were a guardian angel or spiritual guide, and offering some type of gift to that person in the form of a blessing, a metaphor or vision. The offering of the gift is accompanied by gentle touching (in imagination).
http://www.nlpu.com/archive.htm

After offering the gift you collect and give objective insights from grandparent to parent, from parent to you, (or caregiver). I cannot stress the positive effects of NLP in working through family isssues.


Family Constellation

Family Constellations is a highly effective way of healing on a deeply felt energetic level, with long-term and often life changing results.In working with several thousand family systems, renowned German psychotherapist, philosopher and author Bert Hellinger discovered age-old, hidden "Orders of Love" that operate in the depths of family organisms. Violation and disrespect of these natural laws due to tragic circumstances and unconscious behavior in the generations that came before affect the lives of later members of the family. Workshop participants are frequently amazed and deeply touched when the hidden love connections and entanglements within their systems are revealed. For instance, could we ever imagine that unhappiness or health problems could be connected to a stillborn child of our grandmother? Or that difficulties with a current partner could be related to an abortion 15 years ago, or even to the former partner of one's mother? That the severe illness of a child might be caused by an adoption?
Hidden entanglements of this kind are found behind most personal and even professional issues. Restoring balance and harmony to the family system is equally important for addressing physical illness - from lower back pain to cancer - as it is for emotional and mental suffering.
The family constellation is the main technique for revealing the hidden dynamics in a family so they can be worked with and healed. Release begins with the participant stating his/her issue or problem and some factual information about his/her family (i.e. sudden or early deaths, severe illness, miscarriage, divorce, etc.). Then she/he chooses from the other workshop participants a representative for certain family members- alive or dead - and places them in relationship to each other according to his/her inner picture of the system. This creates an energy field in which all involved participants begin to receive information (physical sensations, emotions, thoughts, etc.), related to the family member whom they are representing. Every change in position within the constellation affects the information received. As a result, previously sub-conscious, often tragic family ties are made perceptible and the dynamic that caused the participant's issue can be discovered.

With the information provided by the representatives, and using steps such as appreciation or detachment rituals, the constellation can now be restructured according to the "Orders of Love" into a balanced family system where love, flowing consciously and unimpeded, heals, and guilt, once acknowledged, can turn into energy.
For more in-depth information please read what Bert Hellinger himself has to say about his work in this interview by Chilean Umberto del Pozo.

http://www.familyconstellations-usa.com/hellinger.htm


Body Alignment

Body Alignment and Vortex Alignment are systems designed to heal and align our physical and subtle bodies. Vortex Alignment is also used to protect us from electromagnetic, geopathic as well as microwave radiation and has many more exciting applications.
Working through vibrational energy points associated with the organs, glands and systems of our physical as well as subtle anatomy, the source of imbalance is identified and released. This system identifies the energy pathway and the story behind the imbalance.
Body Alignment and Vortex Alignment help you to reconnect with your essence, and assist you to rediscover who you really are and to unblock your true potential.
This process restores the free flow of energy, leaving you feeling empowered and whole.
Body Alignment Technique has been known to:
BALANCE: the physical structure, organs, glands, body systems, meridians and chakras
RELEASE: suppresses emotions, toxicity and stress
INCREASE: vitality, self confidence and self empowerment
IMPROVE: digestion, assimilation and immune response
RELIEVE: pain and fatigue rapidly and effectively
ALIGN: the physical mental emotional and spiritual bodies.
Who is behind it? etc,etc

http://www.bodyalignment.org/

You can also use talking therapies such as Counselling, Psychotherapy, etc

For more information please contact me for a free 15min consultation regarding healing family patterns if you are interested in any of the above therapies and I will refer you onto the practitioner.mailto:practitioner.info@mjfontaine.com

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